We Are Cars!

 

If you decide to diagnose your vehicle why it doesn’t start, check first the Crankshaft Position Sensor instead of the Ignition Pack and harness…it’ll save you a lot of time!

Last week I’ve been spending a lot of time with a vehicle that simply refuses to show what the problem is and why it doesn’t want to run. I’ve checked the ignition; timing; wiring; fuel delivery system; vacuum controls for leaks; etc, and it shows everything fine, yet it refuses to run!

For many years I’ve considered cars as a reflection of people; not only because we all tend to choose a car for a shape and characteristics that suppose to reflect us in many ways, but mostly because vehicles tend to “behave” in the same way we people do.

Take for instance this vehicle I’ve been working on (and still not finished); doesn’t it look like those situations where we are asking a loved one “What’s the matter?” and the only response we get is “Nothing”.

So we quietly think and analyze every memory we have from the past couple of days, trying to find a reason why our loved one is “functioning” in a completely different way than normal. We ask questions, but the answers don’t give any information of what the problem could be.

With the vehicle I’m working on, if the problem showed clearly, it’ll be really easy to apply a solution and the necessary corrections to make the car run smoothly again. The whole process would be quick and painless, and would avoid any unnecessary frustrations and loss of time.

With an honest answer to the question of “What’s the matter”, a change in common actions, or corrections of results about past ones, could mean the solution to the affecting problem, so the situation would be corrected, the problem solved, and friends again, without any misunderstandings and bad moments to everyone involved in the situation.

But just like some vehicles simply refuse to tell openly what the problem is, and somehow start a game of deceiving, with a loved one the same exact situation can happen, leaving us all like that car mechanic (me), who is trying to find the solution by just observation, testing and analysis of responses as the only way to get to the real reason for the change in operational mode.

I know in human situations many times the refusal to “talk” could be with the intention of not hurting feelings, but if both parts have love for the other, then the one with the problem could trust the other and be capable of openly telling what the problem is, and the other part should be able to accept a possible painful criticism that could mean the need of changing a personal behavior.

A car mechanic would want to know what the problem is in the vehicle because his intentions are to fix that problem, and is willing to accept the possibility to have to disassemble lots of components just to reach the part that is the reason of the failure; compared to the driver of the car that, normally, is not interested in fixing anything by him, but in only to have a good running car to use.

So, instead of being just drivers in our love relationship, we have to become mechanics ready to diagnose and repair any problem the relationship might incur in, no matter how much work might be involved from our part.

And like that stubborn car I’m working on, please, please, just tell what the problem is, instead of playing games that only make the mechanic think of the possibility of sending a still good working car to a junk yard! 

We already have too many “good working units” roaming the lands in despair after being “discarded”, just because too often in their relationships they refused to tell what the problem was.

Raul

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10 Responses to We Are Cars!

  1. A very nice comparison Raul. Talking and sharing is a healthy part of human relationships. Those that don’t tend to be difficult to fix, just like that old broken car.

    The CPS in my Jeep went out. That was a weird one, it triggered the security key light instead of the check engine light. I had to take it to the mechanic and let them run their diagnostics on it in order to identify the problem.
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    Raul Ojeda Reply:

    Hi Eric,

    Unfortunately it is so common to avoid the open talk; and even if it is to prevent hurting the other, still creates damage in the relationship in the long run.

    Raul
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  2. Your Hermana says:

    Did you check the Owner’s Manual???

    Raul Ojeda Reply:

    Checking the Owner’s Manual in this case would be like asking to the mother in law for a solution for a problem between the couple.

    Are you willing to hear all the crap?! :)
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  3. Kelvin Kao says:

    Raul, I love how you have all these brilliant comparisons to cars. It really is a different perspective and yet make so much sense in these scenarios too!
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    Raul Ojeda Reply:

    Hi Kelvin,

    Cars are like us and we are like cars, to the point that we even talk of fuel for the body and sometimes not functioning properly. I like to observe cars because it allows me to understand better how people react to many situations.

    Raul
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  4. Hi Raul, that was a very good comparison. I’ve heard this once in a health seminar where the speaker likened us to cars and using the right gasoline for the engine built with it.
    It all makes sense. Like cars, we need to be pampered, nurtured, and all those stuff in order to get the best out of each other.
    Men talk silently and women think out loud. Men fall in love through the eyes, women through the ears. Etc, etc. I can talk whole day here but I’m afraid I’ll drive away your readers/listeners. :D
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    Raul Reply:

    Hi Anne,

    “Like cars, we need to be pampered, nurtured, and all those stuff in order to get the best out of each other.”

    This is so difficult for many people to understand. They disregard the “loving care” to the vehicle and just tend to complain when the car doesn’t perform as expected.

    “Men talk silently and women think out loud. Men fall in love through the eyes, women through the ears. Etc, etc.”

    Hmmm…home work for me. :)

    Raul

  5. Great analogy, Raul. :)
    This scenario makes me think of a parent and their infant who can’t speak well enough to tell mommy or daddy what is wrong. And then, that makes me think that when adults are afraid to speak up it’s because they’re entertaining (or protecting) that vulnerable emotional child… protecting it behind a steel exterior. Vroom, vroom. Hope you figure out your car’s problem.

    Raul Reply:

    Hi Davina,

    It is so upsetting when a baby cries with desperation and we can’t figure out the reason, so we wish at that moment the baby could talk and tell what the problem is. Then when they can talk we start dealing with truths and lies (or simply too much noise!) :)

    Raul

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