Round and Round, Till Someone Falls Down


    About commenting in other blogs:

    Stopping commenting in other blogs that I read was because of being really busy with many things, including my vehicle that started to ask for many more repairs after the initial ones. What supposed to be a winter preparation, with the addition of an “ice breaker” in front, and the re-doing of the wiring for the emergency lights, turned into a complete front suspension replacing and the 30,000 miles interval maintenance (the vehicle reached 260,000).

    At the other hands, and without even thinking about it at first, the no commenting issue became a test on its own. How many of the comments we make in other blogs are mostly because of being nice, rather than being really impressed by the post?

    From what I can see, there are many different plugins that help to see statistics such: Where the commenters come from; the time of the day, etc.  But they don’t say anything about the thoughts and feelings the commenter might have when making a comment (helpful, supportive, selfish, or simply boredom). So how do we really know? (Besides of the comment itself). 

    There are ways to analyze the data so to get different conclusions about this, but in my opinion, just letting the water rest will tell us if it’ll remain, or secretly (slowly or quickly) drain out.

    You see, it is very easy that overtime, what started as genuine mutual support, turns into a routine action that cannot be easily be away from by the fear of being expelled of the circle. If we create a round holding hands, dancing and singing together, turning around with a smile and a sense of community and support, and then we decide to release ourselves from the circle, we risk to be left out and forgotten by the ones still in the circle.

    How many bloggers remain commenting by the fear of abandonment?  (I know I can be very nasty sometimes!).

    I’m not saying people who keep commenting are afraid of being forgotten. I’m sure most of the times the continuous commenting comes from a genuine interest and have nothing to do with sustaining a “round”; but there is a possibility that, in some instances, some people might be commenting more as a task in the process of blogging to sustain readership, than a real desire of participation.

    I know in my case I like to leave comments when I feel I have something to say; and that’s’ why I might seem to be away from visiting sometimes. And the same seems to happen with the people who visit this blog; which I thank you for that…receiving comments without meaning are not what we expect, right?

    So what started as a short break to complete some other tasks in the physical world quickly became another experiment of mine, in order to see what would happen, and what would be the reactions.

    What I noticed is that, even though the comments received were reduced, statistics showed an increase in readership. (plop!)

    And about receiving comments?

    Those are fun, aren’t they?  It gives us a sense of being heard, even if statistics show twenty visitors only. And when statistics show a continuous increase in readership, but there’re no comments received, logic will say things are going good, but feelings get hit by a sense of loneliness. 

    We are such weird creatures!  Aren’t we?  :)


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8 Responses to Round and Round, Till Someone Falls Down

  1. solita says:

    I am going to comment on this topic but I really have nothing to say about it.

    Raul Reply:

    Hi Solita,

    A comment that doesn’t have a comment within itself, so the presence of a ghost can be felt in the room: Quiet, motionless, just standing there, watching, listening, gathering information for who knows what obscure purpose might be. Scary! :)

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  2. Your Hermana says:


    Raul Reply:

    “Nous sommes des créatures étranges! Ne sommes-nous?”
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  3. Good observations Raul. When I started my new job at the beginning of this year, I had a lot less time for commenting. Now I’ve moved to more of a commenting only when a blog post is very interesting or poses some good food for thought.
    Eric | Eden Journal´s last post ..Life Resume – The Most Important Events of your Life

    Raul Reply:

    Hi Eric,

    That’s true. Commenting can be very time consuming and soon it becomes necessary to reduce to a more meaningful minimum in order to keep time for other things. It seems part of the learning curve most blogger have to go through.

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  4. I notice this too, Raul.

    On certain blogs I slow down my commenting because a) I’m busy and trying to not comment on the same blogs all the time (you know, get out and mingle) and b) I don’t always having anything to say on that particular post. After about a month, I notice this causes those particular blogs to also stay away from my blog. It gets easy to spot the ones who are commenting out of “obligation”.

    That is really interesting that your readership increased, though. I wonder if it’s just those people you’ve not been to who keep coming back to see if you’re still blogging :-)
    Davina Haisell´s last post ..When Writing Goes Stale

    Raul Reply:

    Hi Davina,

    As you mention, maybe some people keeps coming back to see if the blog is still there, but after a couple of times of seeing new posts and no comments in their blogs, they shouldn’t come back anymore…if they are commenting “in return”. Strange indeed!

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