Posted by Raul on October 28, 2010
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Dark clouds will come to stay and it’ll rain everyday
A chilly breeze will take home and remain
Birds will lower their voices and no singing will be heard again
And all the material toys will become stone and collect dust as their only purpose
And home will become a box
And sunshine just a memory
And laughter will migrate to an unknown place
And the sense of reality will fade
And every road will loose its end
A dark, silent creature standing in the middle of nowhere
Surrounded by an unseen, vibrant, alive world
Haunted by memories and feelings
But only tears will flourish
And a long forgotten smile will stay away
From one reality to another
Like an instant travel between two different worlds
So lost, so confused!
After you die…
Posted by Raul on October 25, 2010
What I Believe a Love Relationship Should Be
-What we could expect from a love relationship.
(What each one should do to accomplish the goal)
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-Friendship: Someone with whom we can talk honestly, share our dreams and fears and find mutual, honest support. Someone with whom we can trust each other as the only one in the world that will never fail to help and be there for the other.
(Learning to give ourselves with honest interest and dedication; to become the “place to rest and recharge” for our loved one without any doubt of being safe, understood and supported; without criticism in the back, but honest talk with a genuine good intention instead)
-Commitment: Someone with whom we can build something together; sharing the loads and the benefits of any enterprise we together decided to pursue.
(Learning to play our cards for the other, and take any necessary risks involved without doubts and recriminations)
-Sexuality: Someone with whom we can share sex, sweet touch and the physical pleasures of the human body, without societal restrictions when we are the two of us alone.
(Learning that there’s a difference between public and private behavior and self expression, so being alone we don’t bring with us commonly accepted customs, but give ourselves openly and with care for the other’s needs and desires)
-Pride: Someone with whom we can feel proud of being with in front of others in any situation that arises.
(Learning to continually improve ourselves physically, mentally, knowledge, manners, etc, so to become a reason of pride to be with)
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My guess is that most people would agree with these points; but how many of us are working continually in our part, mentioned in parenthesis?
To give love and to receive love there’s only one needed, but to keep love alive and growing, as for the existence of a relationship, there’s the need of two, and that implies the search is not only to find from who we can receive, but also to find to whom we can give and dedicate ourselves too.
It seems to me it is “established” that finding love is about to find from whom we will receive, but disregarded the part where we give, which implies working hard and continually self pushing to be the one for the other….too common to say “This is the way I am” instead of thinking “What else could I do?”
Continually working to be the kind of person our loved one need implies dedication and many times adaptation and even transformation.
As long as love remains considered a “commodity” that we acquire to have the same way we have a fancy car: to have fun with; to look good with; to know it’s there for us when we need it, but forgotten when we are in “our stuff”, we will never create a relationship that works both ways; and just like one day the car simply won’t start or die on us while on the road, our love relationship will be gone.
These are my conclusion from a “robotic” way of thinking 
Raul
Posted by Raul on October 21, 2010
01- “Luck doesn’t exist…it is our own doing that brings us the good or bad things we receive”
-So how then do I influence the action of buying the right Lottery ticket number?
02- “Everything happens for a reason and is an opportunity to improve ourselves in the future”
-Should I tell that to the Jewish men and women that spent several years in concentration camps just to die there after so many tribulations?
-The early death of my child allowed me to learn the deep meanings of life, but how can I tell my child “you had to die so I could learn”
03- “We master our own universe, we are in control and it depends on us how we perceive our reality and how we control it”
-Then the earthquake came and we lost our house and all our possessions.
04- “I choose to be in love with everything and everyone; I love my surroundings and all that is part of it; I see the beauty in all the things and people that are part of this wonderful world”
-Including that wonderful being that happily went on driving after several drinks and run over my child.
I’ve been lucky enough not to loose a child; I been lucky enough not to be in a concentration camp; I’ve been lucky enough not even to win the lottery (which I don’t play). Yes, I’ve been lucky enough…but I’m not blind, and even though I love life, nature, and I do believe there is goodness in people, sometimes when looking around I can’t stop being a cynic for a moment!
A cynicism exercise…to dust off this human capability that protects us from our own, sometimes innocent blindness.
I’m not feeling down or disappointed, I just want to experience the full range of human feelings, at the same time that I taste a bit of reality, so my feet can remain on the ground.
Raul
Posted by Raul on October 18, 2010
Perhaps one of the most criticized creatures of modern society. The segregated rebels; the elements of the movement that’s mostly about anti-movement. The silent heroes that quietly sacrifice themselves everyday in their quest for sustaining a materialistic society that, at the same time that claims minimalism, requires consumption of goods as a way of sustaining itself and its trading characteristics.
Before you start criticizing your resident couch potato…have you thought of all the goodness they bring to this modern society?
For instance; what would happen to the potato chip industry if only fitness conscious people existed? What would happen to the soda pop and beer industry? Even the remote control batteries need to exist for them!
Every year bigger TV screens and better sound systems are developed for what seems to be the satisfaction of couch potatoes, yet, if it wasn’t for them, there’ll be no need of such marvels of technology in a society that claims the best way to spend time is running, jogging, or simply practicing some form of sport.
What about the TV industry that have to supply endless programs and shows to be aired 24/7? What would happen to those aspiring actors and actresses that dream of the red carpet, and find an opportunity to show their “talents” in some obscure reality show?
To the couch potatoes we owe the existence and remain of such dedicated industries, and with it, the possibility of so many jobs for people to have.
(Violins playing in crescendo)
Products are created and distributed, jobs become available and money circulates around, sustaining the system by which this modern society survives.
It is not just the creation of products like potato chips, pizza, soda pop and beer, but also the distribution of those goods, even to the extent of home delivery.
No tax reduction or government incentive has succeeded in reactivating the economy. When the intention is to motivate consumers to consume, so the industry can remain, only couch potatoes have quietly, and without any government incentive, persevered in their quest for industry movement.
To them we owe a still alive economy that remains in a seemingly inexorable fall and that, maybe otherwise would not even exist today.
(A fifty people chorus singing in crescendo)
To those unsung heroes that quietly go away and disappear after death, with no tombstone reminding us of their sacrifice with a simple phrase like “Here are the remains of a dedicated couch potato; who persevered throughout his life in his quest for an active and financially fit industry, even to his own doom”
“Have you hugged a Couch Potato today?”
Couch potatoes are true human beings. They smile, cheer or criticize some characters on TV; laugh out loud and get emotional to tears with the tribulations experienced by some others in the screen.
Couch Potatoes experience the full range of emotions reserved only to those who dare to be openly human, without restrictions imposed by self improvement books that suggest the restrain of one side of the emotional spectrum, such as sadness, anger, confusion, desperation, etc, in favor of the other extreme of such spectrum as happiness, laughter and satisfaction.
They know how to freely scream and express their emotions in an unrestricted way when the player missed the opportunity to score. They can really express their happiness and satisfaction when seeing the funny side of a TV program, and even a TV commercial.
Couch potatoes can, and do experience the full range of emotions reserved only for a complete human being!
With tears in my eyes I dedicate this post to those that, in a non selfish way, without expecting recognition and applause, standing the criticism and segregation of the others, the fittest ones, still persevere in their quest of saving the economy of modern society, so we can not only live, but have a decent place to be in.
Couch Potatoes of the world…I salute you!
Raul
Posted by Raul on October 14, 2010
This one becomes the number 100 post! Crazy isn’t it? Time goes really fast when we are fully immersed in something we enjoy, like for me writing in this blog.
It’s been a crazy ride for the almost one year so far; with so many ups and downs, so many moments of high speed travel when all the elements seem to be in perfect synchronicity, and so many moments of breaking down by the side of the road, when no creativity, ideas or simply a road to keep going through and a sense of being lost takes home; so, digitally standing there, with both hands in the hips, looking around and thinking -now what!-
The momentum have been growing little by little and now, still a little confused yet with a better idea of the destination, Alien Ghost blog is revving up and increasing speed as the road becomes smoother by the better view offered by an almost year of crawling, walking and now almost running to, at some point, reach the planned destination.
If you got confused by the Alien Ghost logo in red when it should be green, the reason is as a way to reflect this sense of getting more enthusiastic and revved up for the next 100 posts!
Alien Ghost is getting hot!
Among the many elements that have been part of this process I can happily count the Cherry On Top Award passed on to me by Patricia of Patricia’s Wisdom (thanks Patricia!), the many encouraging comments of several readers, together with their participation in contributing another perspective to many of the posts published so far.
So the seed did germinate and grow a little bit, surviving the elements to still remain and pass on to the group of blogs that didn’t end up in the sad count of abandoned to die after a while.
Now it is about to keep pushing with renewed patience while keep practicing the writing process and the blogging one, to retain and grow even more the momentum that embraces this blog.
“Patience and Practice…the opposite of Quick Reward, which has become the main element of modern society”
To all my readers…thank you for your support, participation and encouraging words. You are the fuel that keeps Alien Ghost moving forward.
See you again in the next 100!
Raul
