New Categories


 After spending some time reviewing the stuff I’ve posted so far, it seems to me the categorization used it’s not reflecting the kind of posts in some of them and might lead to confusion, so I’ve decided to add three more categories and reassign some of the posts so far published.

Those categories are: Memories, Fiction and Projections

The first two are self explanatory and for the third one, well…one of the things I love to do is try to fit myself in somebody else’s shoes; not physically but in my mind, so to have a chance to see the world around through somebody else’s eyes and thus experience the feelings and thoughts of that person (It’s like going to the movies without spending money!)

So far I’ve published four posts under that concept in the category “Entertainment” but now it just doesn’t seem to fit the original intention, so after some brainstorming (while not seating in the toilet) I’ve decided to create this new category called “Projections” (most of the brainstorming was about choosing the name! Can you tell?)

Anyway, this new category, together with Fiction will allow you to know I’m not talking about myself but rather I am someone else at that moment, at the same time that it’ll allow me to try to understand my own thoughts and feelings (what a clever old chap I am, right?…RIGHT?…oh well!)

Now, if somebody reading the post happens to be in that situation I’ll be very happy to hear his/her opinion so to evaluate the accuracy of the Projection and improve my procedures. Thank you beforehand for your help and sharing your experience.

So to get started, here is an old one for Projections…hope you like it.


The End Once Again


Why it has to be that way? Why it always starts like if everything clicks to later find so many differences?

Some casual talking with brief locking eyes, little by little getting to know more about each other, feeling the heart beat faster every time a coincidence in preferences arise. Then creating excuses to meet more often, finding ways to be together: a coffee break, lunch, then maybe a movie and dinner in a quiet restaurant.

We found so many coincidences, so many things in common, we thought we found the right person and played our cards, we wanted to be together. After some encounters of great sex and laughing we thought we were made for each other. We made plans together.

But after just a couple of months sharing our lives we started to see the differences. At first little things like the kind of coffee, the way to keep stuff organized, the time of the day to tend the bed. Later bigger things like spending priorities, long term projects. To finally discover all the hidden things never told before; what was expected in bed and never received, what didn’t enjoy but accepted just to comply, so many little and big things that make us look at each other like complete strangers after a fight, after getting all the details, thoughts and feelings hidden that went out in a moment of a heated argument.

Then the decision, the departure, the tears and loneliness; back to the beginning, back to a solitary life, back to be afraid of another relationship, afraid of getting hurt again!

Memories, feelings, loneliness; is it just a cycle that repeat itself over an over again? How many times before finally finding the right one? How many times before knowing that the person at our side is the one we will grow old with? Is it just a matter of time? But how many times?

Back to a gray, flat routine kind of life. No more bright days, no more happy rain, no more laughter for stupid things, no more feeling the heart beating hard!

The end once again!

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14 Responses to New Categories

  1. Kelvin Kao says:

    I love the projection posts because they are from a different perspective and very interesting as a result. I don’t have such a category but I also have one called Fiction. Usually I just make the story line ridiculous enough so that people can tell that it’s fiction. :)
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    Raul Ojeda Reply:

    Hi Kelvin,

    Well, this blog is all about trying to present a different perspective, so the Projections category seemed a logical step in the growing process.

    I remember reading your Fiction posts and at first thinking “what?!!” then realizing it was fiction so it became really funny!

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  2. Hi Raul,

    I like your idea of adding a category where you can share fiction. It not only gives you a chance to hone your craft, but exposes us to more of your talent.

    Smart move! And….great story.
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    Raul Ojeda Reply:

    Hi Barbara,

    Thank you for your kind words!

    Yes, the action of expanding is always good so to give room for growth, and the self imposed challenge open the door to step outside of the comfort zone :)

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  3. “Projection” is a great category for those types of posts. I like it! I had to reorganize my categories a while back, and I may be coming to a point where I need to do it again. It’s good to clean house and reorganize once in a while. :)

    “The End Once Again” seems to be the story of life. I think much of it is about finding ourselves and loving ourselves. When we become comfortable and true within, then it’s easier to attract exactly what we are looking for. On the other hand, I also think that sometimes we are guided, or predestined even, to do certain things in this life, and sometimes that requires these in and out relationships and some time in between to spend on ourselves and our own pursuits.
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    Raul Ojeda Reply:

    Hi Eric,

    This “The End Once Again” post was born after seeing so many people in that situation, always in search and always coming back to the original point, with apparently no gain in understanding, like a battery powered toy car that keeps hitting the wall over and over again. It was a very interesting and enlightening experience to put myself in those shoes for a moment to see and experience those feelings of loss and desperation.

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  4. Joy says:

    Hi Raul,
    Now your creativity is overflowing:)
    I love your story..I love Eric’s comment..
    I think it “has to be that way” because people only tell so much at the beginning, the parts that they know will be loved, while they work hard to cover the parts they think may not be loved, which then leak out bit by bit feeling like untruths when really they are the basic truths of essence…If one projects to the end, the end shall surely come..If one stays in and enjoys the present moment fully that moment is always one to celebrate:)
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    Raul Ojeda Reply:

    Hi Joy,

    I really love how you gave such an accurate explanation of the elements and the processes in just 84 words! Entire books have been written trying to explain this (good thing I didn’t try to explain it but just to reflect it) :)

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  5. Interesting post. I think we have all had that experience at some point in our life and are familiar with the emotions associated with the end. It really is such an interesting time in life where you realize that one chapter is ending and another one is beginning. It is all about how you begin the new chapter and are able to not be held back by the chapters that came before. Interesting topic and post Raul.
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    Raul Reply:

    Hi Sibyl,

    Although the story is from someone who doesn’t see the problem inside but rather as an external situation and thus never making the necessary changes for a different approach next time, you’re right, it is all about learning, improving and then moving on.


  6. Tony Single says:

    Hmmm… an out of body experience without all the messy metaphysics. I like it! Good to see you’re still writing away, Raul. :)

    Raul Reply:

    Hi Tony,

    Not only an out of the body experience, but the chance also to enter in somebody else’s mind and take a look around as if spending time at the museum or the fairgrounds, and as you mention, without all the messy metaphysics!


  7. Marion says:

    Hi Raul

    This was an interesting post because I have two friends who have just broken up. One almost described your post as he has been left feeling as if he is the one with the unacceptable differences.

    So sad that someone is left feeling to blame when in truth no one is to blame.
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    Raul Reply:

    Hi Marion,

    It is always sad when we see friends suffer and there’s nothing we can do to help, other than offer a willing ear and a discrete shoulder with a silent mouth.


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