Every decision we make for whatever situation we might be in implies two sides; it seems (and it is) so basic, yet I’ve seen so many people struggling with this concept.
We make decisions based on the direction we want to go and the result we want to obtain, yet so many times we forget the other side of the coin, the other result, the consequence.
Let’s say for instance we want to have a friend for all the good things that comes with a friendship: Someone to hang out with; someone to talk to; someone we can trust; someone we can count on when we need a hand, etc. But then it’s easy to forget that it is a two ways situation and we suppose to be there for our friend just the same way we expect our friend will be there for us.
It is easy to say “but I’m doing all that for my friend” when in reality we tend to keep that friendship more as a personal convenience than a two ways relation. We call them when we need to talk or when we need a favor, yet we are busy with our own stuff when they call and need some of our time for their own problems or struggles to deal with.
Shouldn’t we always consider both sides of the coin when making a decision? If we want a friend or a lover that will be there for us whenever we need them, shouldn’t we consider the time and dedication that such situation will require from us and accept it as part of the results for the decision made and be willing to leave our own life in standby for a moment while we jump on to the situation that our friend requires from us?
At the other hand, if we are not willing to give our time and efforts at any given minute-notice, shouldn’t we accept without complains the situation of not having anyone to count on?
Another example: We need to buy a car and very easily get caught in acquiring a luxury one instead of a simple transportation vehicle that will meet our requirements for our daily errands. Then we complain for the high costs of fueling, maintenance and repairs that this luxury car implies, compared to a simple one.
Wouldn’t be smarter to consider (and visualize) not only how good it’ll feel to be driving that luxury vehicle, but also take as part of the final decision the coming expenses that such vehicle implies and how it’ll hit us in our budget when the never expected repairs show up?
We naturally tend to see just the side that interest us with (to often) complete disregard of the other side of the coin, which leads us to complaining later for the results that, in turn, reduces the satisfaction of the decision made, when most of this problems could be avoided just by always keeping in mind that any decision we make will always have two sides of a coin.
The sooner we realize this simple concept, the easier decision making will become and the more satisfaction we’ll have by the results of those decisions with less complaining later.
Simple, basic, yet I’ve seen so many people that seem to have no idea of this concept, or have made a habit of disregarding it in their decision making processes.