It is surprising when we observe the way we all, or at least the big majority of us, has been raised; the vision of the world and how to get prepared to interact in a successful way throughout our lives.
There is a song from the 70’s from my country called: “Los Momentos” (The Moments) by “Los Blops” that says it all
“Nos hablaron una vez cuando niños
Cuando la vida se muestra entera
Que el futuro, que cuando grande
Ahi murieron ya los momentos
Sembraron así su semilla
Y tuvimos miedo, temblamos y en esto
Se nos fue la vida”
“We were told once when children
When life shows itself
Of the future, of being grown up
There the moments die
They sow their seed
And we were scared, tremble and in this
Our life was gone”
This translation is not the most accurate but shows the idea of the words.
We are told that we should get prepared and study hard to get the highest certification possible so later we can grab the best position in a big company with great benefits. We should work hard and always be doing something in order to be efficient and prepared.
Then we become more like machines that follow established procedures than human being that enjoy life while living it. We become registered numbers that have a place in the machine while crying from inside we know something is wrong.
So “the moments”, the innocence of a child that sees the world as a marvelous thing full of amazing surprises is lost; the eternal discovery that starts with watching a bird flying or a flower opening to the sun, to later discover the properties of numbers or the incredible chemical reactions of elements, to then find the amazing works of the universe, etc, everything turns into obligated tasks to learn instead of the fresh desire of discovery.
The concept and the process of learning are turned from a natural human characteristic into society rules and punishments to follow and be afraid of. No longer the discovery process is enhanced and promoted as a human joy but rather reduced to tasks and obligations to tap as a condition of maturity and good behavior.
Maybe it is our own feelings of failure in a materialistic society, where we didn’t acquire the elevated price tag of possessions to comply with the standards of success imposed in this trade based society, that pushes us to direct our own children into the path of accomplishments rather than discovery; all in the name of their own good.
Maybe is just a standard we follow in the process of raising our children without questioning of its real effectiveness and the consequences it may brings to them.
The process becomes a cycle and the chain remains throughout generations and only those who visualize the imposed concepts and dare to escape the golden rules become free to create a change in this continuous cycle of society norms that has the purpose of creating effective being at the cost of their human part.